Selah Vita

Life is a treasured asset…don't let it pass by without pausing to think about each moment~~~selah vita

RUN!!

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RUN!!

doesn’t it seem like people are against you a lot? in today’s world everyone fights against each other always seeing the bad in each other…it’s getting kind of sickening if you ask me.
i’m not a pessimist, by any means, yet this troubles me. i hate seeing everyone backbiting, going for each other’s throats over silly things.

where’s the love these days?
i’ve come to terms with it and finally concluded, people are truly lovers of themselves and don’t care who they hurt or who they step on to get things they want..they’ve forgotten how to love others and deny themselves…what a crazy world we live in huh? it’s all a sick game don’tcha think?
well, the more i gave it thought, the more frustrated i became and started my own little version of how the game should be played…i’ve asked myself this, if someone has it in for me b/c they don’t like the color of my hair, skin or eyes, then should i extend grace to that person or make them feel the pain they’re causing me? should i spew my mouth off at them or turn in silence and walk away avoiding strife at any cost? the more i thought about it, the more scenarios my little mind came up with! i tried my best to be christian in my thinking until i heard about a young boy i knew who was bullied and beat up in school and i became a bit different for that moment in time! that’s when i realized sometimes one must stand up to some people…and that’s when i figured out my human side made a decision…and it was this…”take your best shot, and it better be good, because if i get up you’re gonna wish i didn’t!!!!!
is that a good example? probably not, but if you think about it, the flesh can make one lose control, espeicially if you hurt any of my loved ones!!!

obviously it’s time i change my focus and let my flesh sit down for a spell…ya think?

as i did that and surrendered my thoughts i began to look from a different perspectiveHis perspective instead of mine (ouchie)…i realized i was thinking from human thoughts and not with the mind and heart of the spirit. as i refocused, i began to see it from another side, His side…i saw hurting people who lashed out because they were unhappy with themselves. i saw hurting people who were never taught how to manage their emotions. i saw hurting people who never tasted love, pure lovemy heart hurts now

soooooo, now, i felt the pain of some and realized maybe if i pray for them, maybe their life can be changed…maybe if i could touch one or two or three of them i can show them what love is…maybe if i smile at them, they’ll sense i’m not against them, but for them…maybe, just maybe, that will help them move toward the warmer side of love and succumb to the truth of His great love…hmmmm…

got lots to think about now…

peace out

ps…in answer to my own question …yes, i should extend grace to them…but if they’re on the dark side’s team…then, they should run… (sorry, there’s still some human blood running through my veins) 😉

 


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Betrayal or Ignorance, Either way, I choose to see the GOOD STUFF…

CHOOSE TO SEE THE GOOD STUFFfirst, let me apologize for this one being lengthy…sorry about that…

i think the toughest thing in the life is knowing you’ve been betrayed by someone who you thought was on your side…life can sometimes throw some hard blows…

if i’ve learned anything, i’ve realized i have a choice to make in every trial… you see, when someone betrays you, whether knowingly or claim ignorance… no matter what, i can make excuses and deceive myself into thinking they didn’t mean to do it, i’ll always end up in the same place…and the place is…”CHOICE”…which will i choose? will i choose to ignore what they’ve done (like i have many times before)wondering if they were really deliberate thoughts of betrayal (while claiming total ignorance to what they’ve done)?

i’ve been around this mountain so many times, but this time it was like “BAM” my eyes were opened and now i’m beginning to see there is a difference between giving grace and putting myself in the same position over and over again.

let me say this, although it saddens me, i’m learning some great lessons (finally) through it all..i’ve realized God surely wants us to forgive and not keep offenses toward others, and i’ve tried to live that as best i can. but i’ve also failed many times.

i’m finding i’m struggling with allowing others to walk all over me…(wow, i said it)! yep, i’ve been an enabler to some who i’ve given an open door to keep wiping their feet, as if i were their doormat…so the truth is, i can’t blame them, it’s my fault, and mine alone…

so, now the dilemma…will i continue to allow this? what do i do? i have had many discussions (with God) about my failures and begged for his help…now i’m realizing, His help has always been there, but i’ve been in the way…you see, He sometimes wants us to draw boundaries (which i always found hard to do, mistaking it for loving kindness)…this particular matter is indeed a place for drawing boundaries…so now,i have to suck it up, put on my big girl panties and grow up…it’s time for me to step it up and draw the lines…

why am i writing this? well, to be honest, i’m hoping it will help someone else see it’s “ok” to not be a doormat…it’s “ok” to stand up and say, “enough is enough”…just because you love people (family or friends) it doesn’t mean you have to do everything they say…and yes, it’s OK to say NO….it’s OK to disagree or have an opposing opinion…it’s OK TO BE YOU!!!!

i don’t want to talk anymore here, or go way off the beam and drag this on…so i will leave it here and give you something to think about for a while and maybe i’ll get back to it….

in the meantime, my prayer for you is this…i pray God strengthens you to see inside yourself, and recognize if you’re one (like me) who needs to stand up for yourself…i pray He gives you strength to stand against enabling others at your expense…i pray He fills you with so much love that you can choose to see his goodness in others ( and yourself) but not let it be distorted deceiving you into thinking you always have to keep everyone else happy (at your expense)…

the truth is you can’t make everyone happy…you just can’t, it’s not meant for you to do that…that’s God’s job…you just have to do your best and be YOU, the YOU you were created to be…WARNING: not everyone will like you, but that’s OK!..remember you were made in His image and HE loves you more than any person alive…that’s the truth…

so, for now, choose to see the good stuff in others, but don’t let that make you think you have to agree with everything they do, or… keep them happy all the time…your job is to love, not enable, not coddle, not make excuses for their actions, just love…and sometimes choosing to love and see the good stuff means doing it from a distance…

the choice is always yours (ours)… 😉


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A SISTA from ANOTHA MOTHA…

there aren't enough miles to keep a solid friendship together... not time  or miles can keep what God has brought together, apart! this post is for a dear friend that could have been my birth sista! and yes, she's more talented and def the smarter one, BUT those are the qualities i love about her... she's one who has been deeply tattooed in my heart by God Himself... honestly, i think He knew not to make us sisters at birth because He knew we'd get in too much trouble together!! this is for my dearest friend Cate who is always and i mean ALWAYS ready to lend a helping hand to this sista, especially if it comes to techie stuff... i tip my hat to you, and am forever grateful for your loving kindness... i wouldn't trade what God has given us for anything... YOU ROCK SISTA!! ...love you girl!!

there aren’t enough miles to keep a solid friendship together…
not time or miles can keep what God has brought together, apart!
this post is for a dear friend that could have been my birth sista! and yes, she’s so much more talented, cuter and def the smarter one, BUT those are the qualities i love about her…
she’s one who has been deeply tattooed in my heart by God Himself…
honestly, i think He knew not to make us sisters at birth because He knew we’d get in too much trouble together!!
this is for my dearest friend Cate who is always and i mean ALWAYS ready to lend a helping hand to this sista, especially if it comes to techie stuff…
i tip my hat to you, and am forever grateful for your loving kindness…
i wouldn’t trade what God has given us for anything…
YOU ROCK SISTA!!
…love you girl!!